Whether working through an agency, attorney, or a facilitator, the most important thing is to get you to a doctor to start pre-natal care if you do not have one. This can be paid for in a couple of ways. If you have your own insurance plan, through your parents insurance plan, Medicaid if you qualify, or if the adoptive couple you have selected has agreed to pay for medical cost.
A medical release form will be given to you to give to your doctor, so that medical information can be reviewed by the above named or the couple planning on adopting the baby.
After you are set up with your medical part, the very next thing is to make sure that you are emotionally healthy. Adoption is not an easy decision, or one to be taken lightly. You will be set up to see a counselor, before, during, and after delivery. This is your support system to help get you through a tough time.
After you have seen a counselor a couple of times, and you do want to continue on with the adoption plan, then you will need to seek some type of legal advice. If going through an agency, they will have attorneys on staff, if going through an attorney, then he/she will take care of it, and if going through a net worker, or facilitator, they will find an attorney for you & the birth father in regards to legal work.
Again, the couple adopting the baby pays for these fees.
It is illegal in the United States for a pre-adoptive couple to pay any extra money. Payment for living expenses, i.e.: rent, utilities, taxi money, can be reimbursed through an attorney and/or agency only. A receipt for these expenses is usually required.
The next thing to do is to establish a relationship with the couple who is adopting the baby if you are having an open adoption. Usually this is done by phone conversations, letters, picture exchanges, and if the couple is local, through visits with one another.
Then it is time to sit back, and wait for the birth, and to realize that there are many people out there who want to help you through this trying period of your life.